Hands-Free Ejaculation -- Can We All Get There?

OK, this post is 100% geared toward those of us who have male genitalia. Whether you identify as cisgender male or you are a transwoman, if you have a penis and prostate, all of us with those parts will achieve orgasm the genetic male way. Those with lady parts, feel free to read on for a better understanding of what us male-part people can experience.

Over the past four years, I have been on the hunt for the elusive hands-free orgasm. Until roughly six months ago, I was only aware of one type of male orgasm -- that being ejaculation. The knowledge and wisdom I discovered on this journey has brought me into new heights of male sexuality and various male orgasms. More on that in a bit. 

Up until three years ago, I was an obsessive porn watcher. When my sex addiction nearly destroyed my life, watching pornography became a bottom line for me (meaning, I can no longer watch pornography -- much like an alcoholic can no longer drink alcohol). During those days, however, I recall watching one video that was more of a tutorial than pornography. In my search for a "how to" on hands-free ejaculation, I saw one video of a man lying on his back who brought himself to orgasm through thought alone. It was one continuous shot, about seven minutes long, and he put text narration throughout the video to describe what was going on. I'd provide you a link to that video, but I no longer go to those sites, and I don't even know where it is now. You'll just have to take my word for the fact that it exists.

It seemed like this was a man who had mastered the art of meditation, being in tune with his body, and having the ability to stimulate his nerves and first chakra (the Kundalini area) with only his mind. I was completely fascinated by this, but no matter how hard I tried, it just wasn't happening. 

Once I got into a recovery program for my sex addiction, it took me some time to get back into masturbation (because fantasy was a big part of my addiction, as well). At this point, I masturbate for the intense feelings and to be in complete tune with my own body and mind. I no longer focus on external factors. I then started experimenting with prostate massagers to induce this elusive orgasm. The experiences I achieved have brought me to new heights, and I'll never go back...

Did I finally achieve hands-free orgasm? Not in the ejaculation sense. However, I have not given up on this venture. What did ensue was something much more intense and long lasting -- the prostate orgasm. I read about this in my search for hands-free orgasm, but I never knew what it was. In fact, Redditor Big_Daddy_PDX put it best, "The prostate orgasm is very nearly the Cold Fusion concept of the sex industry. Lots of "success stories", but far from duplicatable." Until I actually achieved my own prostate orgasm, I believed it was a myth. It is not a myth -- it is undoubtedly real.

In the next few days, I will draft a post for you on how you can achieve your very own prostate orgasm. In it, I will explain what it is, why it is difficult for so many people to achieve, what it feels likes, and how to get there. 

The sensations you are about to experience cannot be clearly defined in words. Each person is different, so you may experience waves of pleasure, localized pleasure, or a combination. Also, it is not the same feeling as an ejaculation orgasm. It could be analogized to the difference between a woman's clitoris orgasm versus the g-spot orgasm. One thing is for certain, you can extend this type of orgasm indefinitely. It is worth the time for you to pursue this. Your life will never be the same.

As far as my pursuit of a hands-free ejaculation orgasm, I have tried prostate massagers, butt plugs, electrostimulation kits, meditation, air humping, kegels, and any combination of those. If you have any tips for me, please let me know. Like anything on Sexually Secure, this is a joint learning experience -- I teach you, and you teach me.

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